Last night I fell asleep with the craziest thought: do I want to be buried or cremated? And before I was out, after some serious thinking, I decided I want to be buried. Burying lets me have a tombstone. A tombstone lets me have an epitaph. An epitaph lets me have a message. A message allows me to keep speaking after I'm not here to say it. People will be able to visit my tombstone and from it, I can SAY something about my God & how THEY can know Him too. I'm not sure how I'll craft my concise tombstone message, but isn't it cool that even when I'm 6 feet under there, God can still speak through me here? I just think that's awesome.
Tuesday, January 20
Bury me, please
Last night I fell asleep with the craziest thought: do I want to be buried or cremated? And before I was out, after some serious thinking, I decided I want to be buried. Burying lets me have a tombstone. A tombstone lets me have an epitaph. An epitaph lets me have a message. A message allows me to keep speaking after I'm not here to say it. People will be able to visit my tombstone and from it, I can SAY something about my God & how THEY can know Him too. I'm not sure how I'll craft my concise tombstone message, but isn't it cool that even when I'm 6 feet under there, God can still speak through me here? I just think that's awesome.
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I'll cremate u cuz it's cheaper :)
Wow i actually never thought of it that way.. Gives me a whole new perspective
I would have to go with cremated. Not to crazy about bugs eating me up inside some box. Besides I think it would be cool for my urn to sit on someone's coffee table. Maybe my friends and family could create a visiting schedule. I just hope on Sunday's I'm at my brother's house so I can watch football.
Roly
Literally LOLing at Raul's comment.
I've already thought about this. I want to donate my organs and the excess cremated and the urn placed in a cemetery (not on a coffee table LOL). I'm not gonna need my body anymore, but I can still save someone else's life. Also, I don't like the idea of a rotting body and I don't want my loved ones to have to think about it either.
I am still up in the air with that one. I would like my ashes to be sprinkled in a few places. But then with a tombstone you can leave a message. But I have made a list of things I want done after the fact. I don't want anyone to wear black. I want tropical clothes and hibiscus flowers. I want a celebration of my life. NO TEARS!!!!!!! Just laughter about all my silly things I have done... The list goes on. Picture a JIMMY BUFFETT concert. That is what I want. It's not the death that you need to be saddened with. It is the Celebration of Life.
TTFN,
Katie
Definitely buried, cremated weirds me out. Of course I'll be gone so I wouldn't be able to get weirded out..right?
But think this way, God is going to speak through you after you are gone by those that you have impacted while you were here. My grandmother had a huge impact on my life and now that she is gone, I hope to impact others...all because of her!
Oh boy. :)
Undecided!
Let me just say I'll get back to you on that... Btw, given the cuban's comment, what will his fate be?
i never thought abut that..yes, you got a point in speaking after death, yes u are right, it is a place where people can see your message..but.. when I think about how lonely and dark and cold and....the cemetery is..gives me the crips, even that I know I will not be ther,but in mr father's house.!1.. I dont know.. I will think about more seriouslly.
lavoe,
Tainna
i've already decided what i want on my tombstone (my family and friends hate me talking about it but oh well).
"finally, i can sleep" i have to find a Bible verse to go with it though. the idea is that while on earth i was working for His Kingdom every day in every way and when i've left this earth i can finally rest.
not sure if it will change as i move through life but that's what it is for now.
WOW, I have to agree with Stacie. I would donate my organs to save another person's life and answer their family's prayers. I would then be cremated and placed in a wall at a cemetary with a plaque for my "message". If I can save someone else's life, that will be my way of speaking about how awesome He is after I'm gone. What an honor, God choosing me to save someone else.
Kristin
Donate my organs, cremate me, and bury the ashes on Mt Everest...
Anonymous - very funny. not.
Hey Brettster - thx 4 stoppin by, keep up w/ yours, bro!
Roly - LOL LOL LOL!!!! u kill me.
Stacie - good point, girl. yes, I wanna donate mine too...probably not my lungs though ;)
NewBeginnings - girl, that is gonna be one beautiful & fun ceremony. Love the thought & creativity. Wow!
Crystal - verrrrrrrrrrrrrry true, girl. Good point. I believe its called "Legacy"
Barby - he will have to bury himself..that shall be his fate
Tianna - yes, some cemetaries are def creepy!! But some are quite beautiful too like the pic of one i put in this post
Ann Marie -LOVE your tombstone message. Fantastic. Can I borrow it for mine?
Kristin - yea friend! yes! It is so true, you'll be heard long after you're gone. :)
Not my favorite topic, I must be honest. However, I know this is part of life and something we all will face. I liked Crystal's take on it, those we touch today will keep bringing our message when we're long gone.
I can't really decide. I would probably leave it open for the ones that end up having to deal with my body to make that choice based on their circumstances.
Such a deep yet realistic conversation. One we don't really like to talk about. Gives us so much to ponder. My family is so spread out I think the argument would be where to bury me next to and what state.. Hopefully god willing by then my family will be strong and healthy and all in one place so we can be laid to rest together. I'd have to go w the beautiful cemetary..
of course friend! you know you got dibs on my brain (pun intended)
Heather,
Get cremated and have your ashes thrown in the wind...hopefully you will get into the eyes of some people you don't like too much and you can irritate them for a little bit... at least that's what I want for me...
This is a very sad but realistic subject... just get cremated most people don't visit tomb stones anymore...
Damaris
Donating my body to science. I am sorry to say it this way, but once I am out of here, I don't really care what they do with my old, broken down shell. I did tell them to have a HUGE party, and don't waste money on a funeral. Do something in my memory, like donate something to orphans!!!
Had to do a follow up to my last comment... Might be a little off target but hey it doesn't hurt for others to know too. LOL
Okay I actually looked at my file on the computer labeled After I die. My sister already knows it is there. So I can periodically add or take things off. Sometimes I like a song or something I would like there. See when my dad passed away he was cremated. I had a locket made with some ashes in it so when I got married he could still walk me down the aisle. We also handed out cracker jacks cause my dad was the BIGGEST Boston Red Sox fan. Take me out to the ball game. It was great and he was wearing his RED SOX shirt. That is the way he would have wanted it. I am sure he was laughing when he was looking down. HEHE..
I just needed to look into the file to see what I have been planning after my departure.
Heck I am gonna copy and paste it. I am crying already... I hope I am 90 when this happens...
__________________________________
I know this is a bit morbid. I am only 31. But hey we have to admit it can happen anytime. I wanna give you all a heads up to what I really want you to do with me.
Cremation and then I would like my ashes to be put in 4 spots. I want each of the kids to have a locket like I do of Dad. Then the rest I like to be put in a mosalium or buried. I am not sure what can be done with my ashes..
I would like to go to Ireland. Even just a Ziploc snack bag amount. See I am laughing already. My luck the wind would blow and you would be covered in me. It’s okay to dust me of and say EWWWW!! I want a headstone or plate. Something really great. I like this quote:
"When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, "I used everything you gave me"."
I have always like that quote. And everyone that knows me will think the same thing of me.
I think that I am the ideal sister, friend, daughter, mother, and just all around awesome person.
A nice service. Nothing spectacular. Just a get together of my friends and family.
DO NOT CRY!!!!!
Bring pictures yes even the silly pictures. Slideshow of my life.
I know I have many wonderful memories.
I will slowly make a song playlist. There are a few songs I really love.
Tiki Bar theme or Margaritaville. I want parrots (can be fake) Laidback like Jimmy Buffett. Tropical shirts. Margarita’s. hIBISCUS fLOWERS.
NO BLACK
-Not even underwear.
Darn it, it’s a shame I am missing this.
Send everyone home with a Shell of some sort or a pair of flip flops. Evan a flip flop keychain..
Celerbrate my life. Tell those crazy stories… It’s okay. They are funny…
I do have a request for everyone. Please write down things that you know about me and the things I have done. Give them to my kids so they have stories about me. Add some pictures if you have them.
Keep an eye on them, I won’t be there to do it.
Lisa- Take my place with the kids. You were always a wonderful mother/sister to me. I know that you will love them as much as me. I trust your knowledge and advice with them.
Ken – try to pass on the advice you gave to me. I know I didn’t listen but I hope they do.
I want everyone to know that I loved each and everyone of them dearly. They left footprints on my heart and I will be waiting for them on the other side.
Newbeginnings2008, I don't know you, but just read your "departure file" and I think it is awesome. To put so much thought into what u want to have and altho it isn't lookek at that way, it takes so much off the hands of the ones we leave behind to deal with. Some may read all that and say wow! Hopefully as your file grows and when the time comes, (god willing, in a long lifetime from now)u will look down and see this wonderful celebration you have layed out for yourself.. God bless all of you..
See when my Dad died we didn't know what to do. We all just kinda went to the funeral home and guessed. But I want it all done. I don't want anyone to wonder if they did soemthing right. Yeah it is a little wierd to have it all in a file but I just want it to be a peaceful celebration. But I hope God lets it happen in like 50 years...
Taken me days to answer this...My recent loss my mom..she wanted to cremated ..it was her desire..but no plan as to what to do after..I have yet to pick up her remains..for a few reasons..I don't have the stength to yet even after 3 months and I don't know what to do..Yes,I know she is with Jesus but her shell is here with me.and that is hard.
I have decided thru this that I want to be buried mostly so that my family has closure and also a place to go to remember..I think it is important for those who remain.
In the end my mother remains will be buried..and this October we will go and remember and celebrate her new life with Jesus...
Whatever you all decide..make a plan..and put it in writing...I find it is one of the most thoughtful things we can do..does not have to be morbid...
Peace
Esperanza( Espie)
My mom passed away 7 years ago. She wanted to be cremated & her ashes scattered in the Atlantic Ocean..We had talked a few years before she passed and I had told her that I wasn't getting on any boat {hate boats} so she'd have to figure out something else, we laughed about it...Well, my parents have a place up in the mountains of NC & a golf course surrounds the property..Our house overlooks the 5th hole..So, I told her that would be a great place..{the 5th hole} Then she'd have the "hole in one" she had always wanted..Fast forward to Oct 10th 2001, about 10:30pm..About 15 of us march down to the 5th hole on the golf course, pitch black, zero visibility, someone had to drive a car in front of us to light the way..We each took a bit of her ashes and as we were sprinkling them into the 5th hole we said our own thoughts on how she had impacted our lives..We all were smiling because we knew how funny the whole scene was and how she would have gotten a good laugh out of it..It's a good memory..Not morbid at all..
I forgot to add..That everytime I go up to to the house in NC, and pass the 5th hole I smile and remember her..And then think of all the people that are putting their ball into that hole and have no idea my mom's there..
Lynn, Espie, NewBeginnings, Michelle, Lesley, Damaris, Ann Marie, Priscilla: you guys have added such fresh & diverse perspectives to this post. Thank you so much.
I have thought much about this topic. I do not want an open casket - that's creepy. I do want to be buried because when the trumpet blasts for the return of Jesus, I want to be one of those whose grave breaks open and my body rises. However, I have to say, I really think He may come back during my lifetime and it is possible I will be raptured as a live person. On my tombstone I want these words displayed that I have been known to use: Be like Nike! Just do it! And then I want the swoosh carved in the stone. I wonder if there would be licensing issues with that.
Oh, I am SO loving ur idea for the Nike thing on your tombstone. That's a great mantra 2 live by and be known by!
Thanks! I love your idea too - be 6 ft under there, but you can still be a witness for Him here! That's 2 cool! I actually saw a tombstone witnessing for Christianity in Charleston, SC. The graveyard was right in the yard of a church and both were very old yet they still hold church services there! The person buried there was a woman who died in the early 1900's. It was very neat. I actually took a picture of it!
Cathy
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anonymous, you posted a comment so far after I had written these thoughts. But I can't thank you enough. Your words resonated me with all day. I'm sure this is no coincidence.
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