Occasionally, folk ask me about my marriage, specifically why Raul and I don't have "PDA." In different circles, this has come up humorously and seriously, so I thought I'd shed some light. Nobody would argue that I'm very extroverted. However, when it comes to public affection, I am very, very, very shy. (Fact: the 1st time my parents ever saw me kiss was on my wedding day). There are reasons why I'm like this, but I chose not to share them here. I hope people always know they can approach me about this; I'm very open to talking about it. I also hope folk understand that it's an insecure part of me that will take time to become secure. Raul & I may not publicly display love, but privately, we're normal. And relationally, he's my best friend, my better whole and the only man I will die next to. And what makes Raul amazing is despite my insecurity, he has chosen to love me anyway.
Thursday, November 6
I Feel I Should Explain
Occasionally, folk ask me about my marriage, specifically why Raul and I don't have "PDA." In different circles, this has come up humorously and seriously, so I thought I'd shed some light. Nobody would argue that I'm very extroverted. However, when it comes to public affection, I am very, very, very shy. (Fact: the 1st time my parents ever saw me kiss was on my wedding day). There are reasons why I'm like this, but I chose not to share them here. I hope people always know they can approach me about this; I'm very open to talking about it. I also hope folk understand that it's an insecure part of me that will take time to become secure. Raul & I may not publicly display love, but privately, we're normal. And relationally, he's my best friend, my better whole and the only man I will die next to. And what makes Raul amazing is despite my insecurity, he has chosen to love me anyway.
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Heather, It takes a confident and SECURE person to be able to discuss their insecurities. I would hope that those who know you would never judge your love for Raul. The two of you have a relationship most people pray for. God has put you together for so many reasons. We all have our own insecurities. We also have our reasons for those insecurities which we don't have to discuss or justify. Thanks for sharing even though you are not obligated to. God knows, you know and Raul knows and that's what's important!!
Kristin
I'm much like you on this. Love that is deep needs privacy.
Kristin & Smilingsal - thank you for depositing your encouragement here..not just for me but for the others who stop by as well.
I totally feel ya! I am the same way and it was very confusing for my BF at first... but now WE understand eachother and its ok that maybe others don't get it... Praying for you this weekend :)
heather...im so glad ya talked about this because for the longest time i thought i had a problem that no one else had. Its good to know that im not alone with this. thanks for always being so transparent to me and others...your AWESOME!
It's always confusing for women how much PDA is socially acceptable. Culturally it's even more difficult for me.
H, you are amazing for sharing yourself here. You and Raul are an inspirational couple.
We all have reasons to be how we are. God tells us "it's OK" by sending us people that love on us no matter what...just like He does.
Good post my friend.
You encourage me to keep on keepin' on so to speak if you catch me.
"I'll be lonely, but I know I'll be okay, Good love is on the way". Thanks girl.
Coia, you're good people, man. God's already got your girl, man. He's just doing a little fine tuning on her. Be patient. Great quote, BTW in your comment!
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